Saturday, July 10, 2004
Youth and age......
I've nv really considered the possibility of seeing a frnd depart this world.. Nv in a serious manner at least. However, the tot struck me about a yr or so ago. My frnd was feeling a little low. It appears that his dad was going thru tremendous sorrow, having seen a close frnd pass away.
His dad, around age 50-60, was a typical S'porean Chinese. He din have any huge business empire, nor did he make frequen overseas trips. He was very home based person, very much like most of us. He had to see a frnd go... Some1 he would have seen around in town and often keep in touch with.
The pain stemmed not from any kinda emotional distance, but from the very element that every1's taken for granted, and which is not within our ctrl ... Time.... The tot of drifting away from frnds is enuff to make me feel depressed, wat more would the sight of my best frnds, close frnds, and good frnds dying b4 me do?
I always lament about how some frnds often tend to drift apart because they never put in any effort to catch up with 1another. Busy working lives, personal commitments, complacency & awkwardness are the common excuses and reasons. Even if you managed against all odds to remain close thru-out your lives, the frnship would inevitably come to an end, like in the case of my frnd's dad.
So in reality, the concept Forever Friends is an utter load of rubbish. Its only right from now on that soft toys with the "Forever Friends" slogan on it, shd also come attached with fine prints
Bakc on a serious note, I naturally fell into a state of self examination.... I have to face such a situation sooner than i think. 10 years would past very soon, so would 20 and 30... Besides trying to my best to maintain my bond with my frnds, perhaps I shd also change my nonchalant attitude towards time & life?? After all, if it not within my ctrl, then the best I could was to fully make use of time.
Yet I've nv really cherished time as it was. The very obvious part is my youth. Since sec1, I've nv really done anything substantially significant. I actually slept my days away thruout secondary sch, and hang out occasionally in town... I was not a outstanding student, nor was I any happening rebellious teen. Come to think of it, I was juz mediocre.
Juz last nite, me and a bunch of frnds chanced upon this lady in her 50s. She was obviously a little high on alcohol, and was searching for her husband and kids. She made some silly comment about losing them, and was describing them to us. We laugh 2gether with her at her situation, and b4 she left, she threw a word of advice. "Enjoy ur time, i was your age once, i noe, enjoy ur days as much as u can."
Again, I was thrown into deep tot... so many times, I've been told to treasure my youth.. Even now, past my teen yrs, as a young adult, I'm shown this... Everyday, I'm always told of how time passes unknowningly, b4 I noe it, I've already spent 1yr in perth as a uni student.
Its time to live the moment, and experience every ounce of happiness, sorrow and pain. Yet, as much as I can remind myself(for umpteen times), I'll still end up taking time for granted. Soon, I'll juz drift along in life, as I've always done so....
His dad, around age 50-60, was a typical S'porean Chinese. He din have any huge business empire, nor did he make frequen overseas trips. He was very home based person, very much like most of us. He had to see a frnd go... Some1 he would have seen around in town and often keep in touch with.
The pain stemmed not from any kinda emotional distance, but from the very element that every1's taken for granted, and which is not within our ctrl ... Time.... The tot of drifting away from frnds is enuff to make me feel depressed, wat more would the sight of my best frnds, close frnds, and good frnds dying b4 me do?
I always lament about how some frnds often tend to drift apart because they never put in any effort to catch up with 1another. Busy working lives, personal commitments, complacency & awkwardness are the common excuses and reasons. Even if you managed against all odds to remain close thru-out your lives, the frnship would inevitably come to an end, like in the case of my frnd's dad.
So in reality, the concept Forever Friends is an utter load of rubbish. Its only right from now on that soft toys with the "Forever Friends" slogan on it, shd also come attached with fine prints
Forever is an astract term. At the very best, friends only last till death
Bakc on a serious note, I naturally fell into a state of self examination.... I have to face such a situation sooner than i think. 10 years would past very soon, so would 20 and 30... Besides trying to my best to maintain my bond with my frnds, perhaps I shd also change my nonchalant attitude towards time & life?? After all, if it not within my ctrl, then the best I could was to fully make use of time.
Yet I've nv really cherished time as it was. The very obvious part is my youth. Since sec1, I've nv really done anything substantially significant. I actually slept my days away thruout secondary sch, and hang out occasionally in town... I was not a outstanding student, nor was I any happening rebellious teen. Come to think of it, I was juz mediocre.
Juz last nite, me and a bunch of frnds chanced upon this lady in her 50s. She was obviously a little high on alcohol, and was searching for her husband and kids. She made some silly comment about losing them, and was describing them to us. We laugh 2gether with her at her situation, and b4 she left, she threw a word of advice. "Enjoy ur time, i was your age once, i noe, enjoy ur days as much as u can."
Again, I was thrown into deep tot... so many times, I've been told to treasure my youth.. Even now, past my teen yrs, as a young adult, I'm shown this... Everyday, I'm always told of how time passes unknowningly, b4 I noe it, I've already spent 1yr in perth as a uni student.
Its time to live the moment, and experience every ounce of happiness, sorrow and pain. Yet, as much as I can remind myself(for umpteen times), I'll still end up taking time for granted. Soon, I'll juz drift along in life, as I've always done so....
# posted by emoboy @ 7/10/2004 01:26:00 am
